Who are you???

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Who are you? What is below the surface? What is under the makeup, hair styles, stylish clothes, and trained smile? Who are you when no one is around? What are your thoughts? What are your stresses? What is your pain? Who are you hiding from? Where are you running to? What is it about you that you don’t want other people to see?

These are hard questions to ask. But ask you must. Being aware of you feelings and thoughts helps the process of growth and healing. I once asked myself who are you? I could not answer. I had no idea. This was shocking to me, because how can you crave acceptance and want people to love you for you if you don’t know YOU?

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The answers to these questions for some are extremely painful. It is hard to see past these thing. I try very hard not to make light of other people’s struggles, because something light to me may be very heavy to someone else. Throughout my process of discovering and transformation, I am learning new things about myself. I have learned that no matter what I am going through, someone else is going through too. The bible says we will all have trials and tribulations to conquer. The road to greatness is narrow and not paved. You will trip, stumble, and fall. However, on this road you will learn and you will adapt. It is so easy to focus on what is wrong in our lives. It is easy to watch others appear to be thriving with things and/or opportunities we say we want. But remember just like you hide your pain well, so can they. Focus on your path and your dreams. Stay out of theirs.

xoxo

Alicia REACH THE TOP (1)

You Are Beautiful: The Love Letter

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Dear You,

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Believe me when I tell you. True beauty comes from your smile, your kindness towards others, your laughter, accomplishing your goals, and living your dreams.

Deep down you want be the woman who has inner peace so deep it’s manifested in everything you do.

Many women struggle with body image and self-doubt, and don’t even know it. As women, we are quick to believe we are not enough while others have everything. Society will tell you that you deserve to be mocked, ignored, and made to feel inferior if you don’t have the perfect hair, smile, shape, weight, man, friends, car, clothes, job, image.  

SPOILER: Only 5% of women naturally have the body type image displayed in the media. That means 95% of women DON’T look like the image on the screen and magazines. (found on dosomething.org)

{PSA: Quit looking at HER}
Why would you want to be like anyone else? All the time you spend in the mirror dreaming of looking like, acting like, or having what someone else has, you COULD have been LIVING in your best moments. QUIT looking at HER and just Be Your Own Image

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xoxo, Alicia

Be Your Own Image

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Magazines, Television, Books, Articles, and even your favorite celebrity will have you pulling out your hair to believe the “LIE”. The lie that has been spreading like an epidemic. The “LIE” is that physical perfection can be achieved if you look like this or eat this, or tuck that. If you do not, then you deserve to be ostracized, and degraded.

We live in a world that tells us that there is a mold, and everyone must fit into it in order to be praised. People lie everyday about how they really look for the purpose of looking like someone else. With cosmetic surgeries, cosmetic injections, photoshop, etc, its no wonder why we suffer from low self-esteem and negative thoughts about our selves.

When did believing that who you are is NOT enough to accomplish your goals in life??

Why is this “normal” thinking??

My mission is to spread the word, the thought, the belief, the action that you can BE YOUR OWN IMAGE.

Revolutionary thinking is knowing that people who are known for their success or the legacy they left behind, were people who refused to fit inside the mold. So again I repeat BE YOUR OWN IMAGE!

Here are 5 tips to help you get on track to being a BOLDER you:

1. Ignore your faults: Reposition your mind to accept flaws. (stretch marks, overweight, underweight, large nose, small lips, big hips, small butt, etc) “Flaws” are a reminder that you are unique. Embrace them!

2. Make a list: Put to paper what you LOVE about you. Call it My Benefits. Reposition your mind to fully love what you love. (eyes, lips, hair, laugh, hands, butt, legs, sense of humor, ability to talk to anyone, etc) Know what you have. Love what you have. Share what you have.

3. Accentuate the positive: Map out a plan. Take the list you made of things you LOVE about you, and write one action step you will take to pamper/nurture that benefit. This technique is designed to force your mind to stay in the moment of you. (My Benefit: My hair. I will learn one new hair style every week from Youtube and wear it that week.) Confidence comes from consistency.  Just do it!

4. Gain Strength: Move that body. Go run, walk, skip, dance, lift weights. Do something to create the natural feeling of being happy. Endorphins are a God send!

5. Elevate your standards: Don’t accept everything that comes your way. We have all heard the saying “Don’t believe everything you hear.” Well, take it to another level. Know what makes you positively and productively happy. Create your environment that support your “happy”. Then keep/kick out anyone or anything that tries to take your “happy” away.